How can you expect someone else to love and accept you if you don’t even do it?įor people who are into it for non-sexual reasons, it’s more of an emotional response rather than a sexual stimulus. To paraphrase RuPaul, “If you can’t love yourself, how the fuck is somebody else going to love you?” You have to love who you are, you have to be happy with who you are as the first step in accepting yourself or finding a relationship with somebody else. So anytime we talk to anyone here we always try and be as open and friendly as possible. And if you feel that others don’t value you, you might not value yourself and that’s very detrimental and very hurtful to one’s self.
And when you’re different, it makes it difficult. When people come here, sometimes we talk about that: what about it for them, do they get out of it? Everyone wants to fit in, everyone wants to be welcomed, everyone wants to feel loved - that’s something we all want.
I get that people feel that way - I just don’t understand why. I find it strange that you can feel shame in something that makes you feel pleasure. Whether you look at it from a fetish aspect or not, a lot of people feel shamed by having sex that is not the traditional, missionary man and woman - or man and man or woman and woman, perhaps - style sex.
